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Thursday, January 24, 2013

To love and lose, or not to love?

I'm having one of those days.  The ones where you wonder about the choices you make, about how you got to where you are, and whether those decisions were the right ones.  One of those days where you just wonder about life in general.

I think it's the weather.  Gray, gloomy, etc.

One thing that's been on my mind lately is that age-old saying about how it's better to have loved and lost than to have not loved at all.  Or is it?

You might remember a post I wrote back in October about how my girl TSwift would've been proud of me.  I was just starting to date that guy, and we had a lot of fun until things ended six weeks later.  It's been more than two months since then and I'm still hung up on that guy.  Not in the ice-cream-pint-late-at-night kind of way, but hung up enough that my heart still aches for what might have been.

So is it better to love and have lost that love or not at all?  I honestly don't know.  I'd like to say yes, but at the same time... it's so hard having to look at someone and wonder how your life might be different now if things had worked out.  Hard enough that maybe it's better to not love at all.

What do you think?  If you've been in this situation, how do you deal?  Or have you been on the other end of it, wishing you had loved and lost?   xx

(if you're reading this, mom, happy birthday !)


  1. I really don't know. I feel the same that I want to say yes it's better to have loved and lost, but it's def painful to look at someone and know that you are no longer together.


  2. Everything you experience makes you who you are today. Guys included. I try to think of exes as helping to create the person I am today, helping me find who I am (and am not), and being a part of my journey towards being comfortable and happy with myself.

    The best thing you can do is focus on being happy with yourself. I've found that the best boys tend to come along when you're least expecting it. Annoying, but true!

  3. I think that break-ups are hard...hard enough to make it worth considering not getting into a relationship at all. But life seems so much fuller when we do connect with someone else.

  4. I always vote better to have loved and lost. You can learn from every experience - even the hard ones. You learn about yourself during the experience, and while trying to cope with it. And sometimes it sucks, but you're right - but that's what girlfriends and chick flicks and ice cream are for. Looking back every boy I've dated/liked/hooked up with tells a story about me and where I was at that time in life - and I find it interesting. Also, I admit it - I love a good boy story. Good luck in figuring it out though - to each her own, and nothing like this is ever easy.


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